RELATIONSHIP REFLECTION

“Relationships are the most important function of my life:  before my life began, after my birth, during my life, even after my death”.  Before I was born, a relationship was formed by my parents.  The relationship that was formulated by them was the beginning of whom I would be.  Who they were, together, would produce an environment that would cultivate me as a child.  Once I was born and began the development process set before me; I would encounter many different relationships that would impact my life and whom I would become as the years rolled by.  When I die and depart from this earth, I will have to rely upon the relationships that I have developed throughout my life in order to ensure that my legacy prevails.  When I look at what a relationship means to me; there are many people that I have to thank for molding me into the person I have become today.  Some of the thanks, I honestly could have done without.  But I do believe that if I continue to live my life and follow my path; even those relationships will show resonance to why they existed.  In my opinion, positive relationships and/or partnerships are built on trust, honesty, loyalty, and an unconditional respect for one another and the purpose of the relationship.

The relationship between my MOTHER and I is my most treasured relationship.  My mother has always been an un-bias resource that I could always depend on.  She has not always agreed with my choices and decisions; but she has always been honest with her opinions and insight (regardless if I liked it or not).  She has taught me to stay true to myself, even when others do not understand.  She is a fighter.  When life has been at its toughest point in her life; she has never given up.  Her faith is the most pure example of faith that I have ever witnessed in any human being.  Her grace and endurance has been a stepping stone in my life time after time.  I thank God for her every day.

Growing up, I was a daddy’s girl.  Like many other girls, I thought my DADDY could do no wrong.  Then life began to happen and I found out that my dad was just like any other man.  My father and I had a very hilly relationship.  We had a lot of ups and downs as I matured and became a woman.  He taught me, in a very indirect way, to except people for who they are; trying to change them will only may you miserable.  Once I learned that my Dad was not a perfect man, and I began to respect him as just my father (something my mother encouraged); our relationship turned into a solid, unmovable force.  We look forward to our visits.  He enjoys teaching me EVERYTHING that there is to know about maintaining my house, (I have more household supplies than the average man).  I enjoy organizing his time with us around events with his grandchildren that live in the same area as I.  This is an experience he did not have with his older grandchildren from my older siblings (different mothers).  The relationship between my Dad and I is the most solid of all of his children.  I thank my mother for that…

It goes without saying that my BROTHER and I have a unique closeness.  I hear about the feuds that siblings tend to have.  My brother and I have a way of disagreeing, cutting it off, and either never visit it again or wait until the other brings it up at a better suited time.  I cherish that in our relationship.  He is stubborn; but I can count on him when no one else comes through.  The more serious things are the more loyal and reliable he is.  We travel together.  We take care of each other (and our families) when needed.  He is my best friend.

As far as my professional relationship, my SPANISH TEACHER in my daycare is my rock.  Most people do not understand our relationship; but WE do.  I can count on her with my life and my business.  I believe that she feels the same way about me.  We depend on each other to balance our working days.  I dare not disrespect her family and what “family” means to her and she does the same for me.  We have raised our children together.  She cares for my son, my home, and my well-being.  There isn’t anything that we would not do for one another in the name of this profession.  I know that if I am unable, for some reason, to work; she would keep the legacy of our facility alive and operate it as if I were still present.

My relationship with my COUSIN has also assured the after-life experience for me.  Her loyalty, fairness, and honesty have been solid throughout our lives.  In the event that anything should happen to me, I trust that she would take care of my son and raise him with her children with her children; never showing any favoritism.