Saturday, February 14, 2015

"MY SUPPORTS"

SUPPORT!  What does support mean to me?  Any person, place, or thing that helps bear or will ease the weight of anything I need or have in my life.  Although this definition is very simply put on this paper; it packs a lot of meaning for me in my life.  Google’s definition of support is, “give assistance to, especially financially; enable to function or act” (Google,).  For our blog assignment we were asked to imagine a situation that we were not currently in and identify the types of supports that you would need in order to survive or exist in the situation.  I found this task to be very difficult.  All I could imagine were situations that I witnessed others to have and how I imagined it would be if it were me.  Some of these situations were devastating viewing from the sidelines.  I know that my wildest imagination, I could not possibly come close to the person actually walking through the path.  For example, my girl friend of many years experienced her daughter, of eight years old, being a victim of a hit and run accident.  The driver left her for dead.  All of her injuries were to her head.  She stayed in a coma for a year.  She awakened with severe brain damage.  According to doctors, she would never walk or talk again.  My childhood friend and her daughter visited my son and I for New Years, 2015.  We attended my son’s basketball games (where she was his loudest cheerleader), shopped at the mall, and danced in the kitchen to her favorite song, “All the Single Ladies” by Beyonce.  How could I possibly imagine and fulfill a support list for something I only know from the sideline?

What I can do is tell you about my daily support system from an emotional, practical, and physical perspective...

This is Amir.  He is the man of my life!  Emotionally, he reminds me of how blessed I am everyday that I look at him and all of his abilities (good and bad).  Because of him, I know the purpose of each day that I awake from my sleep.  Practically, he is the designer of my daily “To Do List”.  He is a better calendar than any other method that I have used.  He keeps my schedule full and keeps me on track for each event.  Physically, he helps me keep in shape.  We play all types of sports together:  basketball, soccer, golf, baseball.  I am teaching him how to skate.  I am beginning to think that there is something wrong with me because its’ been 2 years and he still doesn’t have it mastered.J



This is Andre’.  He is my younger brother; although sometimes I think he gets confused and thinks he is either my older brother or my husband!  I haven’t figured that out just yet.J  Emotionally, life gets overwhelming sometimes.  My husband and I are separated and we struggle sometimes in our attempts to communicate.  When I am unable to view things from a man’s perspective or when my son’s father is not there for him and he needs a man’s touch on things; I turn to my little brother.  Practically, he is the family keeper.  He sends me reminders to call someone because it’s there:  birthday, anniversary, wedding, family reunion deadlines, etc.  Physically, he is my Mr. Fix It!  Between my home, vehicles, and the daycare, something is making a crazy noise; is broken; or needs to be put in place and it’s too big, heavy, small, or tedious.  Whatever the issue is, he will be there.  He may not come right when I want him; but he is always on time!


This is my extended family:  Edith, her son Guadalupe, Me and my son, Amir.  We have raised our children together like brothers.  We have, and continue to have, an awesome journey in this adventure we are sharing with our children.  Emotionally, Edith is my rock!  She has, and still is, been with me through the toughest times in my life.  Never judging me; just helping me to pick up the pieces to move on.  Practically, everything that I forget to do; she does it.  Sometimes I am a nervous wreck because I realize that I forgot to pack my son’s lunch and now I have to drive 45 minutes away so that my son can eat.  In the midst of my panic attack; Edith will say, “Oh I do it already, it’s in his backpack”.  Physically, she will help me move the moon, if I said that it would help.  We have challenged ourselves to the max.  When our budget doesn’t allow us to afford something we need or want; I can always count on her.  We have built and torn down walls, painted, sewed, glued, and reconstructed things that master carpenters dare not touch.  I could absolutely not exist, in the manner that I do, without herJ

My world could not exist without My Support Team!

  
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4 comments:

  1. Looks like you are blessed with great support for yourself. I know exactly what you mean about having a child in your life. My two children are my two blessings, too, and when I feel down, I think about them and I feel better! Nice blog.

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  2. Looks like you are blessed with great support for yourself. I know exactly what you mean about having a child in your life. My two children are my two blessings, too, and when I feel down, I think about them and I feel better! Nice blog.

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  3. This is awesome, Amelia!!! What a support system you have. I feel the same way with my 7 year old daughter, just my world. I don't call her my angel for anything!! Thanks for sharing, great post!

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  4. i love that you and your brother are so close and he keeps you grounded. My children have a similar relationship and I hope they continue to be each others support system. It is great that you are a support for your friend and her daughter, we all need friends like you to help us through the good and bad times.

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